Glenda Watson introduction by Buck Griffith: Glenda and her husband (Pat) have had more than their share of life’s disappointments. The family business was lost and their home threatened. Through God’s mercy and grace, they have survived and reach out to others today. In the midst of their pain, their two sons became involved in chemical abuse. This Christian couple had sought to bring their sons up in the “nurture and admonition of the Lord.” Glenda and Pat were very “faithful” and involved in a great deal of church work. This struggle was devastating! Finally, seeking help for self-alone, Glenda found it in a small group. She learned to be transparent, opened up, and began to share her feelings. These events converged as CASA formed and Glenda’s warmth, honesty, and caring heart enriches each meeting. She and Pat have found added strength for their daily struggles. Glenda leads the FamilyNet program and Pat has become a Licensed Chemical Dependency Counselor.
By Glenda Watson
I wanted a group like CASA ever since our struggle began with drugs and alcohol.
When I realized our two sons were having these problems, I cried for help! It was devastating to watch my family literally come apart. I sought counseling but, my husband was in ‘denial’ and the boys had no interest at all.
Next, I tried PDAP - without success. All but my job was in shambles. Fellow church members who had not walked this “walk” did not understand. As a wife and mother, I felt totally lost and alone.
I had emptied myself into my marriage and family and now it was a war zone! My husband and I were experiencing guilt, anger, grief, and blamed each other as the mountain of troubles grew higher and higher.
I was depressed. My husband was even more depressed. It was like there had been three deaths . . . both sons and my husband.
One son finally got his G.E.D., but it is painful seeing him struggle. The other son graduated but lacks goals and a place to “fit.” I’ve observed their failure to mature mentally and
emotionally due to drugs and all that accompanies their abuse.
Yes, they are still abusing . . . maybe not to the same degree but grave dangers yet lurk. CASA helps me understand from “their” side and I pray they will one day respond to the love, forgiveness and acceptance offered there.
In our CASA meetings, I like to sit and listen. I hear myself described to a “T” although I have never (personally) had drug and alcohol problems. There are many kinds of addiction and hang-ups, aren’t there?
I have grown tremendously through CASA. I am learning to love more deeply and to accept others “where they are” and to have empathy for all.
Yes, this has been a battle and it is not over but with God’s help, it is getting better! I thank Him for CASA and for Him working through our group. I love each one.